When we talk about maturity, we think an aged person must be a mature. It has deep rooted in our mind that maturity is measured with the age but it’s not the case. Maturity comes with the experience regardless age difference. Emotional maturity and mental maturity are the essentials to live a healthy life. Let’s discuss in detail.

What is Maturity

Maturity is a state of being fully developed in personality. A person is called mature when he stops complaining about everything, when he is ready to face the hardships and hope for good future, when he stops calling his mother for every need, when he doesn’t look for others to motivate him, when he knows how to tackle the situation, when he knows how to react and what to speak according to the situation, also when he stops comparing himself with other persons.

What is Mental maturity

Mental maturity is something that deals with the mind. Mental refers to the mind and maturity refers to the higher state of development. A person becomes mentally mature when he started thinking prior to speaking. Mental maturity tends to provide awareness of what to speak, whom to speak and how to speak.

What is Emotional maturity

Emotional maturity is something that deals with emotions or feelings. Emotional refers to the feelings and maturity refers to the state of being mature. Emotional maturity reflects the maturity of a person regarding expressing his emotions. How a person reacts to a specific situation if he gets hurt by someone, receives criticism, gets fired from the job or gets unexpected good news. If a person does not react over little things or react wisely, he would be called an emotionally mature.

Mental maturity VS Emotional Maturity

Both terms are the types of maturity and come from practice and experience. It is not necessary that a person; who is of more age; is matured too or a mental matured person is also an emotionally matured. A person can achieve these two consciously by practice.

Basic difference

Mental maturity helps you to control the situation by using right words. It demands you to be in present moment learning from your past mistakes and act accordingly.

Emotional maturity helps you to control your emotions from over reacting upon situation. It demands you to not emotional outburst when you get something undesirable. You must be an accountable for your doings and actions.

Example

If a child can’t understand the difference between love and likeness and takes the both things same, he is not mentally mature. He has to know that everybody can like him but can love him.

If you are driving and find someone who is standing in the middle of the road and start shouting on him to step aside. It shows your emotional immaturity. You need to understand the things from his perspective too while controlling your emotions.

Traits of Mentally matured person

  • Understands the situation
  • Thinks prior to speak
  • Knows what to speak
  • Knows how to speak
  • Knows when to speak
  • Contains high integrity
  • Responsible
  • Seeks self-mastery
  • Independent
  • Seeks wisdom before act
  • Knows prioritizing things

Traits of Emotionally matured person

  • Control over emotions
  • Flexible thinking
  • Experimental in nature
  • Stop longing for things he can’t have
  • Understands the environmental influence
  • Positive attitude
  • Truthful
  • Not depends on others for comfort
  • Self-control
  • Doesn’t flattered by others
  • Shows gratitude

Conclusion

Maturity is a conscious choice. You can choose either to live life having maturity or immaturity. Maturity demands patience, time and control over your emotions and thoughts. A mentally matured person has the potential of giving right reaction to the problem, he learns from his past and controls his present situation, he knows how to tackle the situation.

An emotionally matured person has a good control over his emotions. He reacts to the sudden change in environment wisely without over reacting on the situation. He doesn’t blame others for the things happening around him. He takes accountability for his own actions.

It is difficult for a person to be mentally matured and emotionally matured at the same time. It is a matter of choice.  Which one you are? From which category you belong? If no one then don’t feel bad and try to be one.